Most matching apps optimize for the swipe: a photo, a one-line bio, a yes or a no. BedPost Connect is built on a different bet — that the better predictor of compatibility is how you actually behave over weeks of logging, not how you look in a single picture. This page walks through how that works.
What "anonymous" means here
Connect profiles never carry your photo, your real name, or your contact details. The other person sees a generated handle, a compatibility breakdown, and the behavioral signals you have opted into sharing. They do not see your account email, your face, or your location. You do not see theirs. If a conversation moves to a place where you both want to share more, that is your call — but the platform itself never volunteers it.
We also never publish your data anywhere indexable. There is no public profile page, no shareable link, no SEO surface that exposes who you are. Search for your own email and you will not find your Connect activity, because there is nothing public to find.
How the matching actually works
The compatibility score blends three independent inputs:
- Behavioral signals (about 40 percent of the weight). Long-term patterns from your private logs: rhythm, consistency, the kinds of feelings you tag most often. These are the same signals that move your Connection Score, but only the aggregated, anonymized version is used for matching — never raw entries.
- Lifestyle interests (about 40 percent of the weight). Eight categories with more than 70 tags covering preferences, values, and activities. You pick what fits and skip the rest.
- Stated preferences (about 20 percent of the weight). Hard filters you set up front: age range, distance, the relationship structure you are open to.
Two profiles with similar lifestyle interests and complementary behavioral patterns surface as a match. Two profiles with mismatched stated preferences never see each other in the first place — even if their behavior would have scored well.
What we store
- Your aggregated behavioral signals (numeric, not raw logs).
- Your selected lifestyle interest tags.
- Your stated preferences and the generated handle for your Connect profile.
- Messages you exchange with matches, encrypted at rest, retained for 365 days then deleted automatically.
What we do not store, ever
- Photos. Connect does not have a photo upload field. We never see your face.
- Real names. The handle is generated, not derived from your account name.
- Phone contacts, calendar, or location history. The app does not request those permissions for Connect.
- Anything from your private cycle logs. Cycle data is firewalled from Connect entirely.
Lifestyle interests: the part you control
The lifestyle interests are the most opinionated part of Connect, because they let you describe yourself the way you would describe yourself to a friend — not the way a dating-app drop-down would force you to. Eight categories: communication style, social energy, intimacy preferences, values, lifestyle pace, family stance, openness, and shared interests. You can pick five tags or fifty. The model weighs depth (you really care about a few things) and breadth (you are open to many) differently.
What this is and is not
Connect is compatibility matching, not a dating app. The distinction matters for two reasons. One: the goal is to surface people whose patterns and values fit yours, not to maximize the number of swipes. Two: BedPost takes no responsibility for safety in real-world meetups. If a Connect conversation leads to meeting in person, the same common-sense rules apply as anywhere else online — meet in public, tell a friend, trust your instincts.
Connect is a premium feature. Founding-member BedPost Plus + Connect is $3.99/month or $39.99/year at launch. The matching engine, the lifestyle interests, and the encrypted messaging are all included.
Frequently asked
Can I delete my Connect profile without deleting my BedPost account?
Yes. The Connect profile and the underlying BedPost account are separate records. Deleting Connect leaves your private logs and Connection Score intact.
Can other people search for me?
No. There is no search-by-email or search-by-handle. Matches surface through the algorithm, not directory lookup.
Are my matches told if I unmatch?
No. Unmatching is silent on both sides. The conversation simply disappears from both inboxes.
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