BedPost is built around a single private number: the Connection Score. It runs from 0 to 100, updates as you log, and is meant to be read like a weather report — not a grade. This page explains how the score is built, why we made the choices we did, and how to actually use it day to day.
What the Connection Score is
The Connection Score summarizes three things over the last several weeks of activity: consistency (how steady your logging cadence is), routine (whether the patterns you log repeat in a way that feels intentional rather than random), and self-reported connection (the mood, satisfaction, and feelings you tag on each entry). Those three signals get weighted, smoothed, and rendered as a single private 0-to-100 number on your home screen.
It is private by construction. Nobody on the BedPost team can see your score. Partners do not see it unless you explicitly share an Insight Report. There is no leaderboard, no public profile, and no comparison to anyone else. The whole point is to give you one honest number that is yours alone.
What goes into the score
Three buckets of inputs feed the score. Each is something you log directly — we never infer activity from your phone sensors, location, or contacts.
- Activity logs. Each entry includes a timestamp, optional partner, mood, and a small set of feelings. The score weighs both how often you log and how steady the cadence is. A sudden spike does not move the number much; a steady rhythm does.
- Goals and journal entries. If you set a goal in the Journal tab and check it off, that is a signal of intent matching action. Diary entries with mood tags add lightweight context.
- Self-reported connection ratings. When you log an activity you can rate connection on a small scale. We treat these as the most direct signal of how you actually felt, and they carry the most weight.
Cycle and fertility data do not feed the Connection Score directly. Those live in their own analytics surface (the Cycle × Intimacy insight) so we never accidentally conflate hormonal patterns with relationship patterns.
What the score deliberately ignores
The score is opinionated about what it will not consider. This is just as important as what it includes.
- Frequency alone. A high-frequency week with low connection ratings will move the score less than a steady week with strong ratings. We do not reward "more" for the sake of more.
- Comparisons to other users. There is no normative baseline. Your score is calibrated to your own history.
- Inferred behavior. The app does not read your messages, calendar, contacts, or location. If you did not log it, it does not count.
- Partner data you did not enter. Even if you have a connected partner in BedPost Connect, the Connection Score on your account uses your logs only.
How to read it over time
Single-number scores are easy to over-interpret. A few rules of thumb:
- Trends matter more than the value. A 62 that has been climbing for three weeks is more meaningful than an 84 that just dropped from 91.
- Big swings usually mean missing data. If you stop logging for ten days and the score drops, it is reflecting the gap, not a real change in your relationship.
- Use the chart, not the digit. The score chart on the home screen lets you tap any bar to see the inputs that produced it. That is where the actual insight lives.
Connection Score and BedPost Plus
Free accounts see the current score and the recent chart. BedPost Plus ($3.99/month or $39.99/year) unlocks the longer trend window, weekly summary emails written by the Bex AI coach, and the ability to export an Insight Report you can share with a partner if you choose to. Period tracking is free; fertility predictions are Plus-only because they require the longer historical window.
Frequently asked
Does my partner see my score?
No. Even with a connected partner, your Connection Score is yours. Insight Reports are the only way to share, and you generate them deliberately, one at a time.
Can I see how a single log changed my score?
Yes. Tap any bar in the score chart on the home screen and you will see the entries that contributed to that day, plus the weighting we applied.
What happens if I delete an entry?
The score recalculates immediately and the chart updates. We do not retain a hidden copy.
Is this a clinical or diagnostic tool?
No. The Connection Score is a private wellness signal. It is not a diagnosis of relationship health, sexual function, or any clinical condition. See our medical disclaimer for the full picture.
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